12 Requests from People with Alzheimer's

Please.....
Be patient with me. My brain disease is beyond my control.
Accept me the way I am. I still have something to offer you.
Talk with me and listen to me. I can't always answer, but I do understand the tone of your voice and your expressions of interest. Because I cannot remember does not mean that I am dumb.
Be kind to me. Your kindness may be the highlight of my day.
Don't hurry me. Each day I struggle to keep up and understand.
Consider my feelings. I am sensitive to shame, embarrassment, failure, fear, and uncertainty. Don't ignore me.
Treat me with dignity. I am no less of a person because I have Alzheimer's disease. I would do the same for you if our positions were reversed.
Remember my past. Remind me of my previous successes, values, and worth.
Remember my present. I am a frightened but still loving church member who misses my family, home, and church very much. Let me do what I can do. Break down activities into steps I can handle. I respond to encouragement.
Love me ... and your gifts of love will be a blessing of light on all our lives.

--- From the Duke Family Support Program